Hello Gorgeous Goddess!
Watching the holidays grow nearer on your calendar you feel dread become heavy in your body as you wonder…
Will my drunk uncle make comments about my weight and how much I’m eating at Christmas dinner again?
Will my mother hound me about when I’m going to finally give her grandchildren?
Will my well-meaning cousin ask me how my divorce is going?
As waves of anxiety rise in your chest and ripple out through your being from these worrisome thoughts, let me remind you...you’re not alone, sister.
How would it feel to enter the new year refreshed instead of burnt out on the holiday drama?
Today I have three steps to share with you that will help you manage drama with your family during the holidays.
STEP #1: The most toxic expectation you can hold during the holidays and how to release it
STEP #2: How to keep your energetic space clear when your family throws insults at you
STEP #3: How you’re giving up your power before the festivities even begin
You may love your family members and cherish parts of being with them for holidays while still fearing the chaos that dysfunctional family members bring into your time together.
When we’re around people who don’t embody the kind of light and consciousness that we’ve worked so hard to cultivate in ourselves, we start to feel like we don’t belong, and childhood wounds of not being enough can resurface with a vengeance.
You may be praying that your family will magically change or be different this year, but the truth is that really, you can’t change your family.
Thankfully, you do have the power to change your experience of the holidays with your family, even if they are not the most light filled, loving people on the planet.
STEP #1: Release the expectation that your family will change.
When you let go of the expectation that your family will miraculously change, you allow yourself to accept them as they are and love them exactly where they are in their lives.
Remember that we all have our own path to follow, and they are on their own journey. Do not give up hope that your family is capable of growth and awakening, instead relax into trusting that they are where they are in their life for a specific reason.
Shift from expectation of change into the assumption that your family members mean well and are doing their best with what they have. When you have compassion and release expectations, you become present and unattached.
STEP #2: Set your energetic boundaries.
Accepting your family members as they are does not mean taking on all of the emotional baggage that they have. It is not your fault that your family members have issues.
When you take on their baggage, it often results in lashing out at them which tangles you into the drama, too. Do not take it personally when they want to rope you into their drama, and create a clear energetic boundary with them.
By keeping your center in abundance and your Crystalline frequency, you’ll keep yourself from taking on their comments as truth. There is nothing wrong with you, and what your family believes about you does not have to become what you believe about yourself!
Remember that it is every individual person’s responsibility to rise up, ascend, and change when they are ready. It is not your responsibility to make this happen for them.
You are wonderful, beautiful, and ENOUGH just as you are.
STEP #3: Allow yourself to choose when and how you will participate.
Sometimes we forget that we can say YES to the holidays in our own way. Just because your family spends an entire week or weekend together, doesn’t mean that you have to participate in the entire gathering.
You still have the power to choose how much time you spend with your family.
Instead of feeling that you have to either be with your family for the entire gathering or not go at all, consciously choose the amount of time that you can handle and enjoy with your family.
Maybe you’ll decide to go just for a meal and then come home or go to a hotel where you can have your own space. Maybe you’ll want to go early in the day to avoid the later evening because you know everyone will be drinking all day, and the drama happens at night!
How you spend your time is your CHOICE!
Whenever you anticipate drama or dysfunction in your life, remember that you can call in support! If you can have a support person in your home or family with you, this is fantastic! However, I also want to remind you that you can find a sister to support you in the Crystalline Goddess Facebook community, as well!
Join us here!
Know who you are, be in your goddess energy, put on your (invisible) crown, and sink into your own energy of bliss this holiday season, gorgeous!